I don’t think we need a separate standard here. The past few generations really opened things up in terms of open sexuality of all kinds, but it seems pretty clear we made a mistake in doing that. The oversexualization of our society casts a pall over all interactions – not only is everyone watching for sexual inuendo with people they’d want to have sex with (so for example women and men), we now have men watching their words with other men, and in such a way community is slowly destroyed by building a growing wall of watching what you say in situations where sexuality ought not to be on the menu at all, such as interactions with children.
I know for me, I had to turn off the part of my brain that’s looking for hidden meaning in things in that way when my son was born, because I was so busy stumbling over my words trying not to say anything that could be taken 2 ways that I wasn’t saying nearly as much as I wanted. Instead, I’ll say what I mean and mean it and be damned if it happens to have another meaning because he’s just a baby and he needs to see me saying things without stumbling due to hitting hidden meanings and not wanting to look bad for my imaginary critic.
Given all this, my proposal would be to have less sexuality between men in non-sexual situations, and also less sexuality between men and women in non-sexual situations, and women and women in non-sexual situations. Let’s put it back in the bedroom where it belongs, or at the very least keep it in the club where people are looking for that sort of thing.
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I don’t think we need a separate standard here. The past few generations really opened things up in terms of open sexuality of all kinds, but it seems pretty clear we made a mistake in doing that. The oversexualization of our society casts a pall over all interactions – not only is everyone watching for sexual inuendo with people they’d want to have sex with (so for example women and men), we now have men watching their words with other men, and in such a way community is slowly destroyed by building a growing wall of watching what you say in situations where sexuality ought not to be on the menu at all, such as interactions with children.
I know for me, I had to turn off the part of my brain that’s looking for hidden meaning in things in that way when my son was born, because I was so busy stumbling over my words trying not to say anything that could be taken 2 ways that I wasn’t saying nearly as much as I wanted. Instead, I’ll say what I mean and mean it and be damned if it happens to have another meaning because he’s just a baby and he needs to see me saying things without stumbling due to hitting hidden meanings and not wanting to look bad for my imaginary critic.
Given all this, my proposal would be to have less sexuality between men in non-sexual situations, and also less sexuality between men and women in non-sexual situations, and women and women in non-sexual situations. Let’s put it back in the bedroom where it belongs, or at the very least keep it in the club where people are looking for that sort of thing.